Relationship Patterns therapy for the same old loops
If the same arguments, distance, or role keep showing up, we can look at what is underneath them. We help you notice the pattern without blaming yourself or the people you care about.
What people bring us
People often come in saying they keep ending up in the same fights or the same silence. It may be hard to feel heard, hard to trust, or hard to know how to repair after a rupture. Some notice this with a partner; others see it across family life or in repeated relationship choices. We work with what the pattern is doing now, not just what it means in theory.
- We keep having the same fight.
- I pull away when things get close.
- I say too much, then regret it.
- I never know how to fix what happened.
We pay attention to the pattern between people, not just who is right.
How we work with it
We look at how each person responds, what happens in the space between people, and what keeps the loop going. For couples and families, that may mean slowing down a conversation, noticing triggers in real time, or tracking the roles everyone falls into. When the pattern is tied to stress or old hurt, we may also bring in body awareness or experiential work. The point is to make the pattern more visible so it can be understood from inside the relationship, not just talked about from a distance.
- Somatic Therapy
- We notice how tension, shutdown, or escalation shows up in the body during conflict. That can help people recognize the first signs of a familiar pattern.
- Neurocounseling
- We pay attention to nervous-system responses that shape how people protect, pursue, or withdraw. This can help make sense of reactions that feel bigger than the moment.
- Brainspotting
- When old experiences keep getting activated inside relationships, we may use a focused approach to help with what is hard to put into words. The work stays connected to what is happening emotionally and physically.
What the first sessions look like
The first sessions are about hearing how the pattern shows up and who is involved. We talk about the moments that go sideways, what each person notices, and what feels most important to understand first. You do not need to have a perfect explanation for why it keeps happening.
We offer a free 15-minute consultation. We respond as soon as we can.
Questions people ask
Can relationship help be for more than romantic partners?
Yes. We also work with families, and the same patterns can show up there too.
What if only one of US wants to come?
You can still reach out. We can talk through what kind of work makes sense from there.
Do you just tell US how to communicate better?
No. We pay attention to the deeper pattern, including what happens in the room between people.
Can old family stuff affect my current relationships?
Yes. Earlier experiences often shape what feels safe, familiar, or threatening now.
The practical details
- Fees
In-office or telehealth sessions are $170/hour with Andrea. Equine-assisted Psychotherapy sessions are $200-225/hour depending on provider. Sliding scale rates are available.
- Insurance
We are in network with Aetna, BCBS, and the State Health Plan. We also offer out-of-network billing.
- Where
1829 E. Franklin Street, Chapel Hill, NC 27514
- Availability
We are accepting new clients.